BDSM is about taking someone both mentally and physically on a journey of exploration of their innermost sexual thoughts. The “tools” we use just serve a purpose to get us to a higher sexual plane. We use these to enhance the pleasure, the sensation and the feelings. To make a body part more sensitive and […]

Hot and Cold - The Art of Wax Play
Bondage is a lot about sensations. Anything from gentle to rough, hot to cold. These invoke sensations unlike others and are unmistakable. Hot wax is a good start. Now as always, there is a catch. Hot wax or the wrong type of wax can be dangerous […]

Ok WTF am I on about?
In my desire to make getting into BDSM a little easier for you, I have a plan to do all the above
Bondage tape is often overlooked for its qualities. Its quick to use, easy to remove (if you’re in control) and can have uses to enhance and extend […]

Fisting can be very very intense and very very fun if done right. Indeed if done correctly a lot of women can’t wait till next time it happens
Filling your lovers vagina can be pure pleasure for both of you. Fisting is one of those activities where slow and easy is the order […]

Being a kinkster, there is no way round it, eventually you are going to have to buy some toys! Now quality kinkster toys aren’t cheap, often several tens of dollars.
To make them last longer and be safer it pays to look after them well. Below is a general guide to caring and looking after your […]

The range of fetishes is huge, and not every person will like every fetish but there is a whole load of them to choose from.
For example, a fellow may have a huge boot fetish and love to look at women in boots, and the way the top of the boot is against the skin, the […]

Note: This is a real story of my first major play scene. It was a wonderful time and if the lady in question reads it..get in touch.
I once had a submissive in a small town about 2 hours outside of Amsterdam. It was a wonderful time for me, not least because we were like two […]

Imagine you met someone, maybe online, maybe in real life. Imagine then that you decided you didn’t want to be there anymore. So you just walk away. The problem is that it’s kinda hard when you’re in bondage.
99.999% of the BDSM community are caring, respectful and will help in anyway possible. However there is always […]

If you always fancied spanking something other than the monkey, learning the art of spanking can be very interesting and very rewarding. Done right you’ll get your partner all hot and wet in all the right places. Done wrong and all that will happen is your hand will hurt.
To be really honest about it, introductions […]

Us kinksters kind of know more than most that it is different things that make us tick. There are thousands of fetishes, some more widely known than others, but they all share one theme, they are not the norm.
Now some people would object to that definition. Some people revel in it. It comes down to […]

It may seem obvious but when you are getting into bondage sex you will begin to realize the anticipation is as much fun as the actual act. It can help enhance the actual pleasure and act of kinky sex many times over. You know what its like to wait and wait for something and all […]