I was reading a book over the last few days (Yes I’ve been on holiday but don’t hold it against me!) and it mentioned how planning is good etc. Now yes, this is a kinky blog but hey bare with me on this one…

We all like to play our kinky games, but do you want to be playing those same games in say, 5 years time ? Basically, what im saying is evolve your game. If it’s not what you want now, sort it now, put steps in (with your partner of course ) so that you know where you want to be (Ie what new skills do you want to possess, what dynamic do you want with your partner, do you want to progress to a 24/7 lifestyle. It can be anything because its your life, not mine.

Just write down where you want to be, and agree on it, and write down the steps that would logically be required to get you there, as well as time scales (The act of writing things down makes it much much more solid and likely to happen)

For example, a couple might agree to want the lady to become not just a part time thing, but to become a 24/7 relationship so you could say for example, by 24/10/09 you will be living the 24/7 lifestyle.

So to start with you could have your lady owned and have he wear her collar for at least three hours a day. After a while it becomes second nature. Build up the intensity, and work on it together, plan together, enjoy together . See where you want to go. Basically, if you want to get a bigger depth in your BDSM relationship, commit and make the changes.

It will be worthwhile.

Have your lady write a diary

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