There is perhaps a romantic notion that “Masters” in BDSM are uncaring hartless bastards as is shown in the more extreme S & M film, but in the real world its a whole lot different.

Don’t forget in this “normal” world, our practices are considered different at best and criminal at worst (inflicting bruises and such with crops and whips) The one thing we have in our favour is caring and understanding. Outsiders may not understand but we do. We do it partly for our own pleasure, but more to pleasure your partner. The self proclaimed novice “Masters” often do not make this connection. So the other question to ask is do I know my partner will know when to stop. If there is any doubt in your mind you need to have to at the very least have a conversation about it. You are essentially trusting soemone with your very life. Check out our BDSM checklist if you want to establish your hard limits without embarrasment.

Your Master needs to know your limits, as well as there own. They need to care about you and your wellbeing. Not caring is not an option.

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