Get yourself a kinky date (or several)
Ok, well we all know that it take two to be kinky, well usually!
We all know that you can join kinky dating site like alt.com but its still selection of the fittest! People are even more picky online than real life because there is a bigger pool of fish on the internet.
To increase your chances, here are a few tips.
1. Be honest.
It may sound obvious but if you meet someone and then they discover (even worse if it happens whilst playing) that you were either less than completely honest or that you really, really don’t like having your balls shaved with a cheese grater, like you said you did on the web. Thats not to say that you can’t say “I haven’t tried having my balls shaved, but its something that i’d like to explore more in depth with the right partner”
2. Too little is too little.
When filling out the form, its better to say too much than too little. It will definatly put people off. It basically says “I can’t be bothered” if
you only fill out the absolute basics. In this case more is definatly better. Which lead us onto..
3. Preperation and Planning.
Plan what you want to say. If you can put across your likes, dislikes and what you can offer your prospective partner in a precise and skilled manner
it will make them take notice, rather than rabbiting on endlessly and not hitting the mark.
4. Spell it corecktly.
Ok ok, I spelt it wrong, but in doing so I proved a point. To fill in the form and have it litered with spelling mistakes will
make a very poor impression. Ok, so to spell it right you can either a) use the dictionary or if your lazy like me, you can use a plugin for IE or use Firefox, with its built in dictionary and spell checking.
5. Have a USP.
A USP is a unique selling point. Whenever you see something in a shop, it has a unique selling point, why its better than all the other that seem so similar on the shelf and in the shop.
6. Build up your social network.
Most adult sites now have social network style associations, ie groups of friends. If you can build one, it makes you more prominent and looks better and more human.
7. Wait for real life to get yer freak on.
WTF ? Ok, well you may feel like a horny net geek but for goodness sake don’t put it in your ad or make it real of desperation. You may well love to “cyber fuck da girls” but if you wait until you know someone better before even attempting it, if you HAVE to do it. Until you are actually in a relationship or both feel comfortable, just don’t do it!
8. Stand out from the crowd.
If you really want to stand out from the crowd, upgrade your membership to a paid for one. Not only will it allow you to contact others properly, it will let people see that you are serious about what your doing. It can be rather annoying to just recieve a “nudge” or similar where you are the one expected to pay to contact the other person. It also means that you come nearer the front of any search.
9. I spy with my little eye.
Now this one is a personal preferance. It is also a risk. Putting a picture on makes your profile ten times more popular (this has actually been proven several times over on several different sites) If you do put a picture up, don’t do the normal male thing of just sticking a picture of your todger on there as it conveys the wrong thing TOTALLY.
10. Have fun.
Well, if you aren’t having fun, it’s not worth doing. After all, meeting people is fun and kinky sex is even better.
Ok now you have the definitive list, does it work? Well using these rules, it worked for me. I had several dates within a week of posting my profile
using the above techniques. That how I met my lovely subby, after several fun testing/playing sessions with ladies that enjoyed it as much as I did, I
still chat to them but it a friendly relationship, not a sexual one!
The sites I used included alt.com and adultfriendfinder.com