Hold me, squeeze me, please me
Hold me, squeeze me, please me.
Yes its a bit of a glib title but its kinda what I’ve been thinking today, ie how nice it is to just occasionally have a cuddle and a squeeze with your favourite person. Sometimes full on kinkyness is too much, ie your tired etc etc.
What I find is a nice little thing to do (which I did last night), not uber kinky but it can help you discover new buttons and ideas to play with is to sit up on the bed, in a nice warm environment, with your back against the wall and legs spread 
is to get your partner to do the same and sit in front of you in the space. Get them to close their eyes (or blindfold them) and then if, like me, you find it hard to get your partner to talk unless they are already feeling submissive, handcuff them. Then you can softly and gently ask them questions, gently prod for answers. Answers that you may not get when out of bondage but also because of its low intensity you can do more hugging and cuddling and talking to them to re assure them that whatever they say is good, and wanted.
We did this last night and although it wasn’t overtly sexual or kinky, it was about honesty, truth, hugging and just one to one mental and physical time. My GF shocked herself about how honest and open she was and I was happy that she was more able to tell me more in that one hour than she has grudgingly told me in the last 6 months. A good night sleep was had by all 
Try it, it really, really does work. Can you think of a nicer, calmer no stress but slightly BDSM enviroment in which you could even get any more information ?