Again, an obvious one but hey, we are gonna do complete here if nothing else. Think about it this way, if you have some deliciously sexy subby tied up or in some other more extreme bondage, and you cover their mouth with a gag or such, they ain’t gonna be able to tell you as effectively, that they can’t breath or such, Safe words aren’t much good if they can’t be spoken.

Tied up and having fun ?

The way round this is to give them two plastic balls, one for each hand. Tell them that in advance that should they have an emergency or want to stop, drop the ball in the left hand. Then with the one with the right, you can ask questions, such as do they want to continue. If they drop the ball it can be understood to mean no. Also the question is it too hard etc. Drops could be understood (discussed before hand) to mean either yes or no. You could even re affirm that by asking a question such as “You wimp, if its too much you can drop that ball in your left hand” so it means that you don’t have to break the scene to ask a sensible question.

You can also look for clues. How is their body feeling. Are they hot, are they clammy. How is their breathing. If something isn’t quite right you can then make it right. Even if this will mean stoping sometime.

Basically, it comes down to observation, being safe, and knowing when to stop.

We know most of us can’t afford a dungeon. So whilst browsing I found this awesome bedroom for kinky naughtiness. You may just get away with it in your own bedroom, if your lucky. To buy this awesome setup or just to have a look at it in its full kinkyness, click the image.

If your sex life isn’t sizzling, then maybe you need to shift it up a gear for that night of loving passion, valentines day. As has been said (and I personally found out many times!) planning and preperation prevent poor performance. So start thinking, what’s good, whats bad, and whats just outragously pervy.

Depending where you sit (ie top or bottom) the gifts are going to be different. Think about it, check out bondage stores, like extreme restraints. Check out hardware stores even (often a good source of kinky toys believe it or not)

Cheap and kinky ideas can include feathers, hands (for pinching and spanking “parts” ) You know your partner, do they have an unsual fetish. Personally mine is ladies in knee highs and a lot of nipple torture if I am allowed to come, as I come YMMV

Other cheap and cheerful bits and pieces can include:

• handcuffs - to tie down naughty boys and girls
• Anal toys - variety is the spice of life (esp men)
• Cocks with a difference - Cheap thrills for ladies

As I said now is the time to think. Your time is limited! Plan, plan plan

IF, like me you are a huge pervert, you have already been down this road. Why? because sandpapered nipples and balls are a lot more sensitive and a lot more tingly. My fave is when N uses them on my nipples, so I then have to cope with sore but erect and aching nipples, which is directly connected to my manhood. I adore nipple torture.  I digress lol.

Anyway, the great thing about this is that it is dirt cheap, like you would get 20 playtimes worth for a few $ from wallyworld. It’s also highly erotic, and safe. Once you have had your nipples or balls done,  the sensation of arousal and pain hangs around for a while, catch your shirt on it for a little reminder  and a twinge down there!

No seriously. It sounds stupid, but it comes down to a few core items. If you can put them together, you can have a great time. Also it works that if you can’t put them together, just don’t do it. I guess you call it the secret sexual sauce.

The first part of our sauce is Attitude.

Duh like no shit I hear you say. Yeah, maybe. Think about it though. Your attitude will affect everything. If you are in a bad mood you are gonna be tense, you are going to be emotional and temperamental. Put this together with a bondage and potentially S & M situation and it could end in tears. Other things can affect the attitude as well, for example drink and drugs can impair your senses and your ability to realise what is going on. With these last two I know you know and I shouldn’t have to point it out but hey!

This is the first part of our bondage sauce, the other 4 should be along soon!

Just a quick heads up. There is a funky article over at Gimme-Strapon about pegging. So if you want your lady to get Domme on your ass literally, check it out here

Just to let you all know I have been busy beavering away on a new site. Take a look at my site, gimme anal

I know it’s been a long time, but for you, my dear readers, I have a new article. It’s a quick how to (and why) nipple torture is so much fun. Yeah I may well be biased, but hey, its my blog and I can be.

It can be found here, nipple torture for fun

I have been reading an interesting book. All about slutty panty slaves and what they need and are given by the panty Mistress.

Anyhow here is a tasty little idea for you.Ok so your panty Mistress and you, the panty sniffer She can caress you, chastise you, make you sniff them panties BUT…

A panty cocktail.. Only for the good panty sniffers. Ask you panty Mistress to wear them as long as she wishes too and then if your super lucky, you will have 2 day old panties. Not only will these smell great but if she gets all Domme on you and places them over your mouth and then she can pour her own devine liquid gold pussy juice, either freshly squeezed or pre made, over the panties and into the mouth. This will mean that you will not only get the tasty panty smells (due to the warmth of the pee) but the warm liquid will let out some of the more exotic tastes trapped in those sexy panties, smelling absolutly funky for you to masturbate over, if your a good boy.

I am an avid linux user, because I believe in freedom. You too must believe in freedom, as in the individual type or what is the point. I started this blog to educate a bit, and to slake my need for peversions from time to time. Blogging on various  bits and pieces etc.

However, reading a well respected community persons blog asks the stark question of “is site x blogging or flogging” Flogging as in selling, not the nice type
I like to think most things here are useful to people, and sure there are links etc that help cover the bills that my perversion racks up. I have a few interesting things coming up so keep tuned for cheap but sadisitic fun that is all but free

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